Comments on: The Imposter Mother

By: Jessica

Jessica — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 20:22:04 +0000

This is me. I don’t have a clue what I am doing, I try to excel at EVERYTHING…work, wife and mom. The spiders in my weed bed get more love than my house does. I SUCK at it all. The only thing that does keep me going is my LOVE for my babies. I get jealous of other mommies who do it all right. I am slowly learning to just accept that I will never get any of this right, but by gosh my kids are loved, I rock at my job and my husband still sleeps next to me at night! That is all I know how to do!

By: Corinne

Corinne — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 17:54:32 +0000

What would it look like if we all collectively took off our masks? If we’re all mask-less, we’re all bare and all recognizable to one another, and what’s more, we’re all the same. This was such an honest way to connect with others who feel similarly. Thank you for the authenticity! I would love to challenge all mothers for our children’s sake to collectively take off the masks that were handed down to us. The alternative is to simply pass our masks along to our daughters… and quite frankly, as the 3rd born girl in my family, I never did like hand-me-downs! Love and Light to the Get Born community!

By: Ashley

Ashley — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 14:18:52 +0000

I think the game comes from a need to assess ourselves constantly. We all pretty much feel like we’re failing, flailing, floundering endlessly, and so, we need those thoughts, those “At least I don’t do that”, “I’m better at this than she is” thoughts to gain any confidence at all most of the time..But the game beats us when the inevitable “how does she do it”s creep in. Kind of ridiculous really.

By: get born – Get It! — The Girl Revolution

get born – Get It! — The Girl Revolution — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 14:15:21 +0000

[...] get born is a magazine that deserves to thrive. To do that, it needs subscribers. At only 16.95 a year, for four issues, it’s a great bargain to open the pages and have the divine pleasure of knowing, “Thank God, I’m not the only one who has ever felt this way.” The Impostor Mother [...]

By: Betsy

Betsy — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 22:46:59 +0000

As a fellow Home Ec failure, this piece really resonated with me. Every day I am an actor on a stage and the spotlight just keeps following me. I cannot find the wings in which to hide. Thank you.

By: Stephanie Mackley

Stephanie Mackley — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 21:12:32 +0000

There IS so much performance associated with motherhood. Keeping up the fantasy that we know what we’re doing and that we are completely fulfilled by it. I just want to tear off that facade and scream when I feel like the women and men around me expect me to play that part day in and day out.
Thank you, Carol for your honesty. And thank you Get Born, for existing.